If it's been so long since you've been in the game that you still think Netflix and chill means watching Netflix and well, chilling, it's fair to fear the world of swiping right and left and up and down.
And it's no longer stigmatized to say you met on Match.com, JDate, Our Time or Plenty of Fish. Knowing what site to go to can help but you also may just have to experiment with a few different sites to see which one feels best and seems like it has kindred spirits.People often tell me they want different things now that they're older. Perhaps they were with an addict so this time they just want to be with someone who is mellow (maybe even boring); or, perhaps they had been with someone who didn't "meet" them as a partner and now they want to hold out for their intellectual equal. I find that people over 50 tend to believe that no one would possibly be interested in them because they perceive themselves to be "old." The good news is 50 is the new 30!What is your new life going to look like, and how do you start moving in that direction?Here are eight of the first steps: Nobody gets married thinking, "I sure hope we can get divorced someday! You've signed the divorce papers, and the relationship you entered with so much hope is officially dissolved. Maybe you had been married for decades, maybe just a year or so. Maybe the divorce was your idea and maybe it was your partner's, or maybe you both agreed that separation was best.
Maybe you're relieved, maybe you're heartbroken -- or a bit of both.
The longer you are with someone, you come to learn of their extended needs; or the needs that you never knew they had.
If you’re in a relationship you can simply move on to the next candidate, but if you’re married; it’s just not that simple.
"Know that it's okay to be exactly who you are," says Erik Newton, a former divorce lawyer and the founder of Together, a magazine and podcast for couples.
"You've grown and changed; you're stronger and wiser, and, yes, you also have some wounds.
But however you got here, the question now is where do you go from here?