EFT is a collaborative approach that is respectful of clients and is based on Rogerian therapy with structural, systemic interventions.
I can remember it like it was just yesterday, the day my world got turned upside down.
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I tried using different words, trying them in different ways, I got more and more creative, thinking “ on him as they did on me. And then, one day in a flash of understanding, I understood why. I will extend to you today this knowledge: You are not loving someone as deeply as you could be unless you know their top love language and are using it with them.
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I would tell him that he was smart, and the that he was the love of my life. Likewise, in order to truly love someone well, you need to speak love language to them – not your own.
I would even tell him he was my hero, to which I would get a polite (but uninspiring) response. By default we all tend to speak our own top love languages to others, however, being conscious and emotionally intelligent means becoming aware of other people’s love languages and using it with them.
However, the underlying reason that Fran encounters goes directly to the heart of what every human being needs – to feel closely connected to our loved ones.
As an Emotionally Focused Therapist, Fran helps couples learn a new language of love.
The focus of EFT is to help couples make sense of the way they argue, unravel and foster a new way of relating, heal hurts and foster a safe haven (aka oneness).
The goal of this powerful model is to get to the heart of a couple’s distress & help them turn their relationship around so they can emotionally connect.
( is one of the best documented, most substantive and well researched approaches to couple therapy.”Alan S. D., Emeritus Professor of Psychiatry and Director of Family Therapy Training, University of Wisconsin Medical School, and a leading authority on the clinical practice of couple therapy.
There are many different reasons why couples decide to seek relationship counselling.
This is what Scripture calls “oneness” in marriage.