I’m going to start out with a disclaimer: Every person- and consequently every situation- is different. I am going off of my experience and some discussions with my Japanese friends and friends who have lengthy experience with the culture.
As such, the prominence of dating rises significantly during college and beyond.There is an enormous expanse and variance when it comes to how people meet and start their relationships.In Japan, most do no begin to date until sometime after high school, primarily due to the high demand on the students to get into a good college.Parents typically will discourage any form of dating, and students will simply be entirely too occupied with school and studying to give it any legitimate consideration.I’ve included my thoughts as a Westerner on Japanese dating culture for that reason.
Virgin or veteran, I feel for any Westerner or Easterner who dates or aspires to date inter-culturally this is worth a read. You might just understand the other half a little better after this.Be prepared to be disabused, for whatever images you have conjured in your mind about finding love in Japan are certain to be skewed and not realistic, that is unless you’ve lived in the country before and you know the score.This isn’t to say that you as a foreigner can’t find love in Japan, because some people do indeed have success, but it does mean that you need to ‘clear your mind’ and realize that there is much that is different and much to learn on the subject of love in Japan.This article is mostly for the benefit of Western readers.However, I feel it can also help Japanese readers who would like to better understand the Western perspective of Japanese dating.Although these are perhaps some of the more general ways to meet someone, things are far from as cut and dry as such.