I wouldn't consider myself "the other woman," but it's just a weird situation to be in.I really like him and have felt myself starting to fall for him more and more, and he feels the same way but doesn't want anything more serious.
As a reasonable, logical person, you might look at how he’s acting and assume that he must want a divorce — otherwise, why would he treat his loved one so badly? If this is how he treats his wife, do you really think he’s going to treat you better?!50% of marriages break up after the discovery of infidelity.He and his girlfriend were on a break at the time, and my boyfriend was living in another country. But I remember our friends at the wedding looking at us and thinking…That night he told me he loved me and that he was going to marry me. Before he passed away he was married 5 times, to 4 different women. Divorced her when I was 6 then remarried her shortly after. You know that you are not right for each other and you’re wasting your time. What we had was beautiful and we didn’t want it to change.I wondered why I hadn’t met him before since we seemed to be in the same friend circle. He brought me a bouquet of sunflowers and took me to one of the best restaurants in town. The next day I moved back into my mom’s place for the Summer until I figured out my next move. They divorced again when I was 10.]My dad knew from personal experience that it wasn’t about the wedding, it’s about the marriage. Some people decide to get married after having been through all of these things while dating. Why not get married when we are in the honeymoon phase of our relationship?You’ve got some good friends — and they’re giving you the right advice.
We all hear about those rare occasions when something like this works, but it’s far more common for a recently separated person to end up hurting someone badly, whether that’s intentional or not.
The friend whose house we were at came over to me and said “Hey, go flirt with Tim. We had great conversation and shared appetizers, entrees and on a whim he purchased a 0 half bottle of dessert wine (I later found out that he got paid that day so he was trying to impress me). After dinner we decided to drive up to Lake Tahoe and go for a swim under the moon. After our dip in our underwear, we sat on the shore and saw several shooting stars in a matter of minutes while drying off. We drove back to Reno, went to another bar that was close to my house and had a couple more drinks. After I was finished moving I called him and he was grabbing a beer with a friend so I met up with him. He wanted me to use the “wedding money” for a down payment on a house, an extended honeymoon, or for starting my own business. He just didn’t see the value in having a big, expensive wedding. Since my dad passed away, I wouldn’t really have the means to pay for a big wedding anyways. We were looking longingly into each other’s eye, warbling, whispering sweet nothings, and swapping saliva. They hope that getting married will somehow salvage their broken relationship. Why not make the honeymoon phase the foundation for our marriage? The coolest thing about our marriage is that it still feels like we are in the honeymoon phase.
He’s single right now.”I said, “I’m not single...” And my friend said, “Yeah, but your man is 6,000 miles away, and all you do is fight.” Or something along those lines…So I walked up to him and introduced myself. I remember him being handsome and polite…But that’s about it. I was single and going on way too many Tinder dates. Around 3AM he walked me home and kissed me goodnight. We got dinner, walked around downtown, then he showed me his place. And having grown up in Reno, an elopement wasn’t out of the ordinary. And it wasn’t something I was willing to put myself and my future husband into debt over. Our friend said “Will you guys just get married already? It isn’t about how long you’ve been together, it’s about the foundation you’ve built together, right? My dad remarried very quickly after my parent’s second divorce, and then passed away when I was 17. I think that is because of the precedent that we have set for our relationship early on. [Mostly because we are both stubborn assholes.] I promised myself a long time ago that I would get married once and only once.
” It's complicated, even though we don't have any children or shared assets.
While no one gets divorced overnight (as if it just magically happens when you realize you never want to see that person again), in our case it’s taking longer than it should.
A friend of a friend of a friend swears that they’ve seen one, but the truth is that it’s just another urban legend. Sorry, but if statistics are anything to go by, it’s all baloney.