I dealt with a similar sort of situation with an ex and a best friend. I understand that no one is perfect and that shit does, in fact, sometimes happen, but your best friend and your ex hooking up is a BIG dump to take.
Basically, I encouraged my gay BFF to hang with an ex of mine because why not? The second I set it up though, I regretted it, because I started thinking about what would happen if they hit it off and crushed on each other. If you're ever feeling temptation island, I advise you to think about how YOU would feel if your ex and BFF hooked up.
The sheer concept of seeing one of my mates with an ex is something that’d affect me for a number of reasons.
If you can distinguish between the two and it’s nothing more than an urge for a wild boot-knocking, then stop right there because it’s definitely not worth it.For me, the whole ‘follow your heart’ or ‘the heart wants what the heart wants’ cliches should be thrown out the window here. So in your opinion, what are the rules about dating exes?I don't think those are the rules of feminism so much as the rules of human decency. That's some Dawson-Joey-Pacey kind of betrayal, and I can only imagine the level of hurt you've been feeling. We don't betray the ones we love the most, or at least we try not to!Our chosen colleges were three hours apart and neither one of us had a car or money.
Shortly after my 18th birthday and exchanging our first passionate “I love you,” we called it quits.
We met up recently, and it turned out, like with most things, to be a matter of miscommunication. I thought it was understood that exes are off limits to best friends, or hell, even good friends. Here's the thing: I don't ever want to date my ex again.
There are a few different things that happened during the time I was newly separated that caused me to classify myself as temporarily psychotic, one of those being when I figured out "my ex is dating my friend! Here was a woman who I thought was my good girlfriend.
So what do you do when you find out your friend, someone you also trusted, starts dating them?
Does Gretchen Weiners have a point about the rules of feminism?
I was devastated, but a few weeks had passed and we were still in semi-regular contact. ” Until I found out that he began dating my friend.